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  1. "Should I bother?".

    I think that this is odd question to ask. The answer is up to you, isn't it? Only you can decide whether it's worth it or not. Asking the question this way, in my opinion, makes it appear that you are somewhat ambivalent about your goal. Either you're committed to fixing things or you are not.

    A second observation is this: to have a friend, you have to be one, yourself. You started the unwinding of your friendship by focusing on your ex-boyfriend to the exclusion of this other guy. Doesn't sound like something I would expect a real friend to do. Then you had an argument and didn't resolve it quickly. Also doesn't sound like something a real friend would do. Now you are out of your relationship and moving back from wherever you lived, and want to pick things up and carry on as before. I predict that it's not going to happen. Even if you establish some sort of loose friendship with your former buddy, things will never be as they used to be; you've damaged things way too much and this will always be the 'elephant in the room'.

    Suggestions such as "sag lower for him" are silly, in my opinion. I mean, seriously, if somebody sagged low in front of you would you just say "Okay, I'll be this guy's best friend again?".

    What you need to remember is that people want to be treated fairly and reasonably, just as you do. Now ask yourself, how would you react if the situation had been the other way around? Would you welcome back your "friend" as though nothing had happened?

    Sorry to be blunt, but you did ask.

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