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I'm 30, so I guess I'm stuck in the middle between "young" and "old." I came out when I was 19 (spring 2001) and became sexually active around the same time. At the time, a guy who was 25 was "an older guy" in my mind and someone over 30 was ancient. Some of my friends (around my own age) like guys in their 40s and I just didn't get it. As I got older, my age limits expanded. Right now, I'd say my ideal age range is 20 to "looks 40" (i.e., I'd hook up with a 60 year old if he actually looked to be about 40 or younger, but won't hook up with an old-looking 38 year old). The one thing I've noticed that makes no sense at all to me is that the older I get, the younger the guys interested in me get. I think this may have something to do with my level of confidence--I was fairly shy when I was 19--and now that I know I shouldn't reasonably stand a chance with a hot college boy, they seem to flock to me (I think the confidence thing also explains why it's hard to find a guy when you're single, but as soon as you get in a relationship you have to beat the men away with a stick). Of course, this could also have something to do with the fact that I can afford nicer clothes than when I was 19, I have my own house and don't have to plan things around roommates being home, and have a Mercedes convertible that probably screams "Splenda Uncle" (a younger, less-well-off sugar daddy in local gay slang). My reference point for "old" is now 50, but I'm sure that'll probably go up as a get older, and my ideal age range will probably remain 10-up/10-down (of course I sure as hell won't turn down a college-aged boy when I'm 60, as long as he's actually into me and isn't expecting a sugar daddy...)

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my boys luv chillin wit their Daddy.  Have lost track of how many younger and they keep cumming

Maybe, if you were dating someone younger than 18 you could go to school with them and learn how to construct a sentence which isn't a paragraph long..  That post was ridiculous regardless. 

speak for yourself. i don't dress my age, act my age, i play computer games, i can skate, and ride bmx (although a bit rusty) lol

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First, I think guys liking "much younger" when they get older is a guy thing and not a gay thing - but still kinda shameful. You see old guys with young women all the time. I'm 39 and refuse to date anyone younger than 30. I did recently move though and on a dating website, I had a ton of newbies, just coming out 17-23 year olds come on to me on a fetish website. The last thing in the world I want is someone to call me daddy. As for Saggin - I do like to see urban guys - in their late 20s and 30s and "rentboys" is my fantasy. Even being submissive to them. Would I have a relationship with a 20-something rentboy? never, but that is what gets me off...

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In my opinion (falling into the young category), love is love. If you like each other and it works, go for it! (Within the law).

My personal concern however with being with someone who is older than me would be in regards to maturity and life stage. Someone of say, 30+ may be looking for a long term, mature relationship whereas some 20 year olds want sex and some fun.

I guess it's a case of being aware than age gaps come with differences.

If people can sort that though, great!

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Someone of say, 30+ may be looking for a long term, mature relationship whereas some 20 year olds want sex and some fun.

I guess it's a case of being aware than age gaps come with differences.

If people can sort that though, great!

I guess you're right. On another hand, I know heaps of guys (including me) having long term relashionships full of hot sex and fun :D

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Here's what I have to say,         When I was 20, I had an experience with a 15yo boy,  before you bash me, just hear me out,  He has all of his life stayed with us on occasion when he needed a babysitter, or somewhere to hang out while his parents were away, whenever we had parties and stuff, he and his family are here.  He sleeps in my room when he stays, and has for years, I have never showed him porn or tried to get into his pants, flirted with him in any way, and I wasn't even interested in guys at this point, other than one friend I had been with (helping each other relieve stress sometimes, we were both straight and horny as far as we knew)   Well this particular week may parents and his parents left town the same week, and as usual he stayed with me.  The first night he came over, and even though he had the full option to sleep anywhere in the house he chose to sleep in my room, (in my room i have a queen bed, a couch, and futon)  he has always been comfortable around me in his underwear, pj's, changes all the way down in front of me, ( and I have never really looked at him in a sexual manner, because I wasn't interested that way.)  The first night before bed, about 9 he stripped down to his boxerbriefs and stayed up till 11 in my room with me, watchin tv, I was in shorts and boxers,  nothing happened, the next morning, he was masturbating using a pair of my underwear when I woke up at about 6:15, I let him finish as I was sure i'd scare him and he would freak out and be embarrassed, I pretended to sleep another 30 minutes.  Well hearing him doing that and his light moans did give me a boner, but I just blew it off as nothing.  Well the second night, we were getting ready for bed, and he asked could he sleep in my bed with me, which he has several times when we didn't have other options.  I said yes, didn't think nothing of it, well after we went to bed, we talked for a while, and I told him "in the morning when I wake, you better not be masturbating again"  he said "you knew huh?"  I said yeah, he said he was sorry, I told him it was OK, but asked why he used my underwear, and his response caught me off guard.  "I want to be like you, I want you, I want be with you"  and I asked what he meant, he said that he has been attracted to me all his life and he wants to be with sexually, I told him that he was really young and probly confused, and he didn't know what all he was saying.  He swore he was dead serious and crawled on top of me as I laid there, he said I can't think about anyone else but you, and he went to kiss me, and I let him.  I told him he was too young for me and that he needed to experiment with a guy his own age if he wanted a guy. We argues and I finally gave in so I could just let him get it out of his system and we could get to sleep, after he had given me oral, He told me he wanted me to top him and I didn't do that to any guy, and explained to him I couldn't, i just couldn't then he said OK so can I top you?  Which he had been masturbating some already and he was hard and I had seen it, it wasn't that big he was only 15, and he had done gotten me off, so I felt obligated i guess to let him do me.  It was hotter and better than my old fun buddy ever was, he moaned as he released into me, Over a period of 3 months we had eventually done everything there was to do.  One day he tells me he was gonna start dating a boy, and that because of me and him and what we did, he finally felt confident and able to pursue his love.  The sex was absolutely amazing, and I loved it, he was so hot and amorous in bed, it drove me wild.  He has since dated guys and girls and I have dated 2 girls.  He sends me pics every now and then and teases me. 

I didn't go seek him out, I wasn't looking for that.  It was honest true curiosity on my part and his crush on me that drove the whole thing.  I don't think he was attracted to me because of my age, but rather the friend and buddy he had in me.  Did I enjoy it?  yes, was I wrong?  I dont know, I just gave him what he wanted.  I have never told anyone about this, I consider my self BI curious still and now that he is older than 18, he has been with me a few times.  I did enjoy his jock's body and muscles as we had our little fun.  Am I a pedo NO, I dont look at guys that age like that, and still don't. But what we had was what I might call special, or rare, I had the chance to be with a 17yo  guy a while back, and I just couldn't bring myself to do it, I am more turned on by guys about my age or 1-3 years younger. (i'm mid 20's now)  

I have regrets but being with him is not one of them. 

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I guess you're right. On another hand, I know heaps of guys (including me) having long term relashionships full of hot sex and fun biggrin.png

Yep! Together with my bf almost ten years and sex is just getting greater. :P
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I'm 25 now but when I was a teen in high school I dated guys my age now.  I also dated a young teen when I was 18.  Now that I'm older I find myself switched around and attracted to younger guys.  Any teens 15-18 ever date or want to date older guys in their 20s?

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I agree, if it's love, it's love...let them be. Yeah I admit I prefer younger but Only of legal age. Some younger guys are into me but are not emotionally mature enough. One guy got too obsessed and then it's hard to cut them off. If the younger guy is mature enough and it can be totally mutual, then I'm all for it. But overall, age difference is less and less a big deal nowadays. Look at Hollywood. Heard about British diver Tom Daley who is dating a gay movie director twice his age? Most people don't seem to care...

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as I am one of the "old" here on this site - I am 38 - I'd like to add my thoughts. I haven't posted many comments over the years, but I've read thru all the comments in many thread. Some points mentioned in this thread sound very well-conceived, some would need another step into the deep. 

 

First of all I want to tell you that my reason for being at this site since 2008 (6 years now) is to meet other saggers and share our sagging style. For me it doesn't matter if a sagger is 15yo or 55yo. What counts is that we have at least one thing in common: sagging. Because of this all of you members on this site are friends for me.

 

When I am in SW chat I often experience that especially younger guys ask about my age and then cut the conversation after finding out that i was "too old" for them. This is okay for me, as long as everybody has the right to have his own choice. I have my preferences, too. So why not having preferences in age? The closer the age is, the more you probably have in common with the other person. 

But everybody should be alarmed when statements tend to sort others into groups like "the older" or "the younger". Age is just a number and doesn't tell you anything about the person itself. A 40yo MAY look weird when sagging, but a 15yo MAY look stupid, too.

 

I agree that in most cases older guys have more experiences than younger. They can use their experiences for good, but also for bad. In this sense it can be useful to be more careful with older guys, because they MAY have more experiences in being bad than younger. So you have to find out more about the person before you can tell if he is "good" or "bad". 

 

Finally:

My boyfriend is 8 years younger than me. He is a real hottie! We met each other over the internet. We are happy together for 7 years now. (for those who don't like mathematics: when we met I was 32, he was 24.) Any other questions? ;-)

 

Thank you all for being my sagging friends here on SW!

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OMG. Thank you do much for your submission sheliak 10. I'm in the same age category as you, and get the same thing in the chat room. Not even a hi, but the idiotic (asl) :) I'll be honest, the first few times it happened I didn't know what the letters stood for. But anyway, I'm not lucky enough to have a bf, never have had one. But I'm also a patient person, good things come to those who wait. I'm very soft spoken normally, a few people here have even seen parts of the real me, which is mostly sad, vulnerable, and scared, but still finds joy in making others smile. It's funny, I get discouraged a lot, seeing other members galleries get upwards of 60+ views of their pictures after 24 hours, and mine can be there for weeks and not get half the views, I think "what did I do wrong ?" Then I listen to someone that's smarter and nicer than me, and realize, "I'm just as good as everyone else" , but obviously not as sexy, hot, or whatever word you want to call it, as they are, but anyway. Thank you for reading this, I sort of got off topic here, but I'm "old" , and it happens :). I'm also really nice, and not too bad on the eyes, as the phrase goes. Remember all you young guys here , you will be our age one day, and hopefully still look and feel as good as you do now. Take care guys, special thanks goes out to all of you that have been nice to me these last 6 years. :)

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Dear Carle!

First I have to say that I really like your pics. No, wait... I'd better say: They are HOT! I've seen them before, but I have to admit that I'm not the one to comment on everything. 

 

Back to topic.

The fact that I have a hot bf doesn't change the other fact that i feel being ignored since i was 15. I don't know the reason, maybe i am not "sexy" or "hot" or whatever... maybe I just didn't realize others watching me? This question was more important when I was younger, but now I tend to change my mind. It's more important how you feel yourself, than how others might think about you.

For example: Of course I would love being watched when sagging, and of course I sag because of being seen by others. But I will continue sagging even if nobody was watching, because I love to do it.

 

Don't get discouraged by others or by waiting for something others should give you. Happiness is inside yourself and not brought by anything outside. Enjoy life and take everything as a gift. And in the evening don't forget to be thankful for the whole day.

 

To "the younger": Listen at Carle's words: "Remember all you young guys here, you will be our age one day, and hopefully still look and feel as good as you do now."

 

To "the older": Don't judge "the younger" for being young. Try to be an inspiring example for them, even if not all of them will appreciate it immediately.

 

In the end not age is what counts, nor being sexy, nor if a relationship between "old" and "young" is possible, but if our speaking and acting made this world a better one.

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Preference is what it's all about. Some younger guys aren't into guys my age...I get it. But some are. They contact me and often times we totally hit it off. I put my age in my profile so that there are no surprises. They can choose to talk to me...or not!

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do you think that it is a good thing that there are a lot of younger guys who would prefer to be with older men..

and do you think that older men would prefer younger to keep their youth.. or ???

would love to hear a few opinions...

OMG how many times i see this question. AGE IS NOTHING but a number, if we go on telling ourselves we are a certain age, we start acting like it being miserable, moany ect. I am 41 but certainly do not feel or act it, I have not a single grey hair because I am generally a happy free spirtited guy who copes with stress incredibly well and who keeps in trim with regualr swims and daily long walks. But going back to the question I believe an age gap is only good up to a certain point, then it just becomes unexceptable and the older guy should show a little more reserve and control. No one can help who they like its nature. I have had many young guys advancing me (and i don't just mean on here in the chat rooms) and i find it all a huge compliment but thats where it stops...An acceptable age for me is 21 upwards an age that i feel comofrtable in myself with. There is truth though that some of the young ones think a 30 year old is passed it, Yet i know many 30 years olds that a far fitter and active than most youngsters of today. True saying Youth is wasted on the young... lol well I have said my peice

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Well Brandon.. I think you need to do some research.. YOU are accusing someone of being a pedophile.. when you dont even know them..

NOT all older people who prefer younger are classed as pedofiles.. now.. if they are into underage younger people you might say that would be so..

now a 50 year old who is interested in a 35 year old in YOUR words is a pedophile.. and then a 30 year old who is interested in a 25 year old is a pedo..

think about it..

Maverick311

I agree Brandon needs an education here...in most cases its the younger guys that give the older ones the "COME ON" whether the older guy choses to act upon it or not is another matter. I certainly wouldn't go any where below 21, Its just my perosnal choice any lower to me would feel wrong because i have a a newphew in his late teens and i'd be freaked out if any one came on to him...I am not a pedo because i'm 41 and will only chose to mess with 21s and over. I would be a pedoe if i acted upon some of the 13/14 year olds in here that bug me for **** pics.....I don't and will not indulge in that. If some one of 30 lets say choses to go with  a guy who's 19 thats their choice to do so it not weird.

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