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R u the Heart:use meaningful, loving ways to do things or R u the Hammer:use any means necessary to do things. What I mean is R u a Cuddle-Monster or a Heartbreaker?

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Heart for me.  I think it’s the only way to really get things done. I’ll work a lot harder for somebody that I respect than somebody who tries to scare me.

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On 6/7/2019 at 3:04 PM, SaggerMatt said:

You mean like when you break up wit your girl?

yep. i had to be both the heart and the hammer. which means i had to do what was best for me and still stay with her

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10 hours ago, SaggerLogan said:

then choose both

Is that even possible?

I think i'm a cuddle monster because i've been broken hearted too many times. I'm not the type to inflict misery. I've learned to trust my instincts these days, when it comes to investing my time and energy into something worthwhile. I used to rush into things and then become emotionally tangled. 

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On 6/11/2019 at 3:22 PM, SaggerMatt said:

Right on.

Ever experience that situation buddy? @SaggerMatt

In terms of meeting someone in person or online (months after building strong relationships) getting to know one another. Then one day out of the blue they stomp all over your feelings showing their true colours. 

I met someone online once. He seemed like a genuine guy. We had much in common - as you do on forums. 

Our friendship blossomed over the months exchanging texts and pics with eachother. UNTIL the day came for us to finally meet...

He lied about everything! His profile everything! I travelled to London on the train and met him at Kings Cross. Waited for a while before he came towards me. I was alone and anxious in a city i'd never been to. 

Since then, it's made me hard to trust people. Although this happened some time ago, it still haunts me. I imagine that day all over again whenever i let my guard down 😞

 

 

 

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Yeah, I've had my share of bum deals in relationships.  I think trust is the important part and the important part for us to maintain.  The negative goes by the wayside, regardless.  Thus, I've never really had to be a hammer in consequence.

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5 minutes ago, SaggerMatt said:

Yeah, I've had my share of bum deals in relationships.  I think trust is the important part and the important part for us to maintain.  The negative goes by the wayside, regardless.  Thus, I've never really had to be a hammer in consequence.

I believe that, despite whatever has gone on in the past, you should always remain true to yourself - atleast when push comes to shove right? I've never been a nasty piece of sh*t and i don't intend to change now.

Guess, with all disapointments, each and every single one of us learns to adapt, to mature and move on.

I've told very few people about what happened to me in London. It left an emotional scar which was painful, but it's not as bad now. 

Time's a healer buddy. 

Lee 

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*bumped* I'm interested to find out what other people are like.

Cool topic 😁

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