waxxfan

On 5/21/2023 at 5:08 AM, Admiralolsen said:

Love the advice guys.  To add more of this issue, I could use some more advice.  I have began to admit to not being interested in any form of penetration sex.  I have watched, as we all probably have, po*n and I find straight and gay sexual penetration a major turn off.  I am totally open to other forms of intimacy (blowjobs, handjobs,etc.) Am I weird because I don’t like penetration sex?  I know that that can be a major problem for a relationship but I don’t really want to lower my standards. 

Absolutely normal and ok to not be into penetrative sex.  Google 'gay side' and there are a variety of articles.  

Side: describes someone who does not practice anal sex and therefore does not define himself as top, bottom or versatile.

According to Urban Dictionary, a side is "a homosexual male who does not enjoy anal penetration (giving or receiving), but will engage in other forms of same sex activity (fellatio, frottage, mutual masturbation, etc)."

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2022/jun/20/rise-of-the-sides-how-grindr-finally-recognized-gay-men-who-arent-tops-or-bottoms

Hope this helps.

Does anyone consider themselves to be asexual - lacking sexual attraction for other people, or having low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity with people?  Maybe feel a romantic attraction towards people, but not a sexual attraction?  But also have a sexual fetish for underwear -  so this has the sexual attraction? 

So other people - male or female - just don't do it for you, but underwear does?

If so, is this after trying sexual relationships?  Have you always felt this way?  Do you think it's from birth or from childhood experiences - nature or nurture?  Are you open about it or hiding it?

They reckon 1% or people are asexual - really interested to hear anyones thoughts and experiences.